Commandment 4: Learn to love yourself

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You might not be as skinny as you want or curvy. You might not be able to run or sing or whatever like your friend or someone you admire… And you know what? It’s fine darling! It’s fine because you are who you are. You are you, you are unique. You have your own skills, your own assets, and your own beauty. Embrace it all !!!!

Now, listen, I would like you to do something right now…

I want you to think about 3 things you really like about yourself. Don’t lie, don’t be modest. Just be honest with you and write those three things on a paper …

Done? Now read your list at loud in front of a mirror with confidence and determination.

How do you feel? Good? Weird? Relieved? Tell me …

To be honest, the first time I have done this I felt very weird like “What the hell am I doing?” but then I felt like I was empowering myself and that was a very nice feeling.

Once you’ve done this little exercise I would like you to try something else. I am still doing this one every day!

Every morning, take a minute in front of the mirror and say something nice to yourself. Something you genuinely think.

Everything starts with yourself. Let me write this in capital letter (I promise I am not yelling at you haha…) EVERYTHING START WITH YOURSELF.

No matter what people think about you, no matter how many compliments you get. No matter if the whole world is proud of you. All those things don’t matter if you don’t value, appreciate and love yourself in the first place. Trust me I have been in this situation …

Family proud of me, friends and people around me always saying nice things to me and still, I wasn’t happy… why? Because I was focusing on the criticisms, on the people hating on me, and most importantly because I didn’t love myself the way I love myself today. So all those nice things said to me were empty words, and in my head, I was telling myself “They don’t mean it, they try to be nice”.

To love yourself you need to know and most importantly accept yourself. All of it. And by all of it I really mean all of it which include your “flaws” yep actually you especially need to accept your “flaws”. Remember that no one is perfect. Remember that you need to STOP PRESSURING YOURSELF, STOP COMPARING YOURSELF, START TO EMBRACE YOURSELF.

If you think positively about yourself, you will feel positive about yourself. Trust me.

It’s not going to come overnight but step by step, you will get there. We are going to help you <3

So now, tell me… what do you love about yourself?

What Myriam loves about herself:

  • Her perspicacity
  • Her honesty
  • Her rigor

What I love about myself :

  • My determination
  • My smile
  • My open-mind

Lots of love,

And remember “Be confident, Be you”

Sophia xxx

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2 thoughts on “Commandment 4: Learn to love yourself
  1. Lyna

    Très bon article! Merci les filles pour cette courte lecture avec des astuces très pratiques et concrètes 🙂
    On a tendance (pour certains d’entre nous) de ne pas accepter les compliments qu’on reçoit et, au lieu de remercier la personne, de commencer à lui dire que non, on n’est pas *ce qu’elle vient juste de nous complimenter*. Une première étape serait de ne pas remettre en question les compliments reçus et de simplement dire merci.

    Une autre astuce que j’ai lue sur reddit consiste à, au lieu d’utiliser un humour dégradant (par exemple, se dire waou la peinture que j’ai réalisée est un déchet ambulant), de recourir à un humour où, au contraire, on se surévalue (par exemple: waou, Picasso ne fait pas le poids à côté de moi). Avec le temps, on commence à se parler positivement et à réaliser qu’on mérite d’être aimés par nous-même et par les autres.

    Bonne continuation les filles! Hâte de lire votre prochaine publication 🙂

    • Sophia

      Merci Lyna pour ton commentaire et ton soutient constant. Cela nous touche beaucoup <3.

      Merci pour le partage de tes astuces! Elles sont super.
      "Avec le temps, on commence à se parler positivement et à réaliser qu’on mérite d’être aimés par nous-même et par les autres." Tu as parfaitement résumée la situation!
      Effectivement s'accepter sois-même est un long procédé mais en le voulant vraiment et en mettant en place des petits stratagèmes on peut y arriver 😀

      Merci encore Lyna.

      Lots of Love,
      Sophia et Myriam xxx

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